S.H. and his wife have a cross-cultural marriage and have been married for 28 years. Here is what he has to say:

S.H.和妻子属于跨文化婚姻，他们已经结婚28年。他是这么说的:

The world talks about “Finding Mr. Right”, but I do not think that the Bible does.

世界都在谈论“找到对的人”，但我认为圣经里没有提及这点。

I do believe that the Lord can speak to us and guide us in many situations. The real question is whether we are open to the prompting of the Holy Spirit. Again and again in the Bible, the Lord complained that His people, Israel, were becoming deaf. There are stages to deafness, from being hard of hearing, then needing a hearing aid, and then finally becoming totally deaf, so we cannot hear anything, no matter how loudly someone shouts at us. Christians cannot expect to hear God’s voice clearly if they are doing things that they know He does not want them to do.

我相信主可以在许多情境中对我们说话并引导我们。问题在于我们是否愿意接受圣灵的提示。在圣经中，主一次又一次地抱怨祂的子民以色列人变聋了。耳聋分几个阶段，从听力困难，到需要助听器，到最后完全失聪，所以无论别人对我们如何大喊大叫，我们都听不到任何声音。如果基督徒执意做一些明知神不希望他们去做的事，他们就别想清楚地听到神的声音。

Perhaps the Lord is more interested in the HOW than the WHO. How are you going to relate to your husband / wife once you are married? What sort of things will you do together? What things will you do on your own?

相较之“和谁”结婚，也许主对“怎么样”结婚更感兴趣。一旦结婚了，你将如何与你的另一半相处？你们会一起做些什么？独处时你会做哪些事情？

One of my favorite passages in the whole of God’s Word is chapter 31 in the Book of Proverbs, where you can read a description of what a good wife is really like. Proverbs 31 does not say anything about her pretty face or her hairdo or her figure or even her cooking, but it does say a lot about her character.

在圣经中，我最喜欢的一段是箴言第 31 章，从中你可以看出对好妻子的真实描述。箴言 31章中没有提到“她”漂亮的脸庞、发型、身材、以及她的厨艺，却围绕妻子的性格作出了很多描述。

 

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