Do I have enough love to say “I do”?  || 我对他的爱足以说出“我愿意”吗？

How much love is enough love to marry someone?

得爱到什么程度才能结婚呢？ 

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S.R and A.R. have been married for 11 years and have 3 young children. Here is what they have to say:

S.R和A.R.已经结婚11年，育有3个年幼的孩子。他们是这么说的:

Our love for someone grows as we are in relationship with them in the presence of God.

我们对别人的爱会随着与他在神面前的关系一同增长。

If you find yourself in a relationship that is going well and growing more serious, ask yourself this question: “Could I honor God by committing to this person for a lifetime?” It actually requires only a moderate level of attraction initially, because our love for each other grows in the process of this commitment to each other.

如果发现自己的一段感情进展顺利，而且你越来越认真对待，问一问自己：“如果我对这个人许下一生的承诺，是否可以荣耀上帝？” 实际上最初的吸引不需要轰轰烈烈，因为我们对彼此的爱会在这个承诺的过程中相互增长。

So, find someone suitable (they are also a believer, exhibit fruits of the Spirit and treat you kindly) and that you have SOME attraction to. Then, if you commit to being with them, when you bind to them and know them more, your love for them will grow. Once you are married, ask God to grow and deepen your love as you are married and bind together physically and sexually.

所以，要找一个合适的人（也信主，彰显圣灵的果实，善待你），这样他也会吸引你。然后，如果你决定和他在一起，朝夕相处了解加深的同时，你会越来越爱他。一旦结婚了，求神帮助你们的爱更加长阔高深，因为你们已经结为夫妇，肉体和情欲都要相合。