R.H. has been a Christian for 32 years, formerly married and ever-growing. Here is what he has to say:

R.H.已经信主32年，曾经结过婚，他的属灵生命一直在成长。他是这么说的:

Don’t change, bro. You do you. God made you the way you are. Be authentic to yourself and the woman you want to be with. God will bring someone well matched to you. Don’t worry. Understand God has your identity. You are a son of God and God loves you.

弟兄，你无需改变，做自己就好。神造就了现在的你。要真实地面对你自己和你心中对未来妻子的期待。神会把与你相配的人带到你面前。别担心。要明白你从神而来的真实身份。你是神的儿子，衪很爱你。 

 

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L.P. and his wife have a cross-cultural marriage have been married for 9 years with two young sons. Here is what he has to say:

L.P.和妻子属于跨文化婚姻，他们已经结婚9年，育有2个年幼的儿子。他是这么说的:

One tip: volunteer for children’s ministry and do it with all your might. All the best sisters are there. 建议：去儿童事工做服伺，并要竭尽全力地去做。最好的姐妹全都在那里。   

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R.G. and her husband have been married for 7 years and have one young boy and one baby on the way! Here is what she has to say: R.G.和丈夫已经结婚7年，育有一个小男孩和一个即将出生的孩子！她是这么说的:

You may think you are average, but in God’s eye, you are good and special. If you are dedicated to build a Christian family to glory His name, I am sure God will send you the right one He made for you in the right time no matter where she is. Like God led Rebekah to Isaac from thousand miles away. And at that time, that sister will see you as her beloved(良人)， together you two will receive the blessings and good call from the Lord.

你可能觉得自己很平凡，但在神的眼中，你很棒，很特别。如果你立定心志要建立一个基督家庭来荣耀神的名，我相信神会在适当的时候将衪为你所造的人赐给你，无论她在哪里。就像神把利百加从千里之外带到以撒面前一样。到那时，那位姐妹会视你为她心爱的良人，你俩会一同蒙神祝福，并领受那从神而来的美好旨意。

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S.R and A.R. have been married for 11 years and have 3 young children. Here is what they have to say:

S.R和A.R.已经结婚11年，育有3个年幼的孩子。他们是这么说的:

Continue seeking the Lord first and try to remain patient. No matter how dating or life turns out, we are rewarded in the next life for pursuing the Father. We serve the God who sees us and knows the desires of our heart, so always keep hope. Remember God is good no matter what happens, and His plan and timing are perfect. Think about how many stories in the Bible there are of people waiting and waiting, getting to the point of despair, and then God seeing them and intervening at the crisis point when they must rely only on Him. So, you’re right on track.

首先你要不住地寻求主，竭力持守忍耐。无论约会或人生的景况如何，我们在永生里都会因追随天父而得赏赐。我们所侍奉的神，衪看见我们，明白我们的心思意念，所以要常存盼望。记住，无论发生什么事，神都是良善的，衪的计划和时机都是完美的。想想圣经中有多少故事是这样的：人们一直等啊等，直到绝望之际，神看到他们，只有在除神以外别无所依的危机时刻衪才介入。所以，不必担心。