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Sometimes I feel I have same-sex attraction. What do I do?
有时候我会被同性别的人吸引，该怎么办？
T.S. and her husband have been married for 17 years and they have 3 daughters. Here is what she has to say:
T.S.和丈夫已经结婚17年，育有3个女儿。她是这么说的:
I speak as someone who also struggled with same-sex attraction (SSA) and acted on those attractions before becoming a Christian and as a young believer.
在成为Ji Du Tu之前，还初信Zhu时，我也有过同样的挣扎，就是被同性别的人所吸引（SSA），且因此有过实际行动。
My parents divorced when I was young. I lived mostly without my father and with an abusive step-father and my mom. I was molested by a neighbor girl and introduced to gay pornography as a child.
After having sex with many males, searching for the deep love I desired, they would always treat me badly and leave me. I decided to try dating women because I thought I must be broken or gay since no men would stay in a long-term commitment with me.
Though very exciting, pleasurable and acceptable in my community, I always knew deep inside me something was wrong with what I was doing. When I became a Christian, I started to discover God’s perfect plan for love, relationships, families, sex and marriage.
God’s way was completely different than what I did and experienced growing up and was everything I longed for. I was not really gay even though I had SSA. I believed lies about who I was, my worth and what sex was for. The desire for love and sex is not wrong.
When we satisfy those desires outside of God’s perfect plan and design is when we go wrong. I have been happily married to a Christian man for 17 years and I’m a mom to 3 beautiful children. Over time, God has transformed my life through his word, perfect love and by ‘the renewing of my mind.’ Romans 12:2
我年纪还小时父母就离婚了。我跟妈妈和继父一起生活，几乎见不到父亲，而继父虐待我。我曾经被我的邻居女孩猥亵过，她也让我在童年的时候接触到同性恋色情作品。为了寻求内心深处渴望的爱，我跟多名男性发生性关系， 但他们总是非常糟糕地对待我，然后离去。我决定要试着跟女性约会。我想，我一定是心灵破碎了或者是同性恋吧，反正没有什么男人会跟我维持长时间的关系。虽然跟女性发生关系让人兴奋、愉悦，也被我生活的圈子接受，但我内心深处知道这是有问题的。成为jidu徒后，我开始了解祂对爱、关系、家庭、性和婚姻的完美计划。Shen的计划跟我的所作所为和成长时所经历的截然不同，也正是我渴望拥有的。尽管被同性所吸引，但我并不真的是同性恋者。我相信了关于我是谁、自我价值和关于性的意义的谎言。渴望爱和性并没有什么错。但如果在shen的完美计划和设计之外来满足这些渴望就是错了。我跟一位jidu徒男士结婚17年了，是3个可爱孩子的妈妈，很幸福。经过这些年，藉者祂的话语和祂完全的爱，也因着“心意更新而变化”罗马书12：2，我的生命被Shen全然更新。
Sexual attraction is a complex subject affected by many variables in one’s life-
divorce, parental relationships, abuse, neglect, trauma, pornography, education, hormones, etc.
Though everyone is different, it is possible to gain valuable insight into some factors that have contributed to your present state of mind.
Christian counseling, prayer, journaling, discipleship, active participation in a church body and healthy, biblical relationships with both sexes can help free us from unbiblical beliefs and thought patterns, can re-order our desires and help us live according to our chosen values and faith-commitment.
If you consider yourself a Christian, what your creator has revealed in the Bible is what is most deeply true about you, NOT what you feel.
Studying the Bible shows us God’s plan for human relationships and sexuality, He can transform our lives, change our desires, help give us strength and self-control when we are tempted and weak, and help focus our lives on a broader purpose, plan and outlook.
性的吸引是很复杂的一个现象，被生命中的多种因素影响—-离婚，父母的关系、虐待、忽视、创伤、色情、教育、荷尔蒙等等。人跟人不同，但关于自己目前的心理状态，还是可以（从别人的经历中）获得一些有价值的启发。Xin Tu的辅导、daogao、记日记、Men Tu培训、积极融入jiaohui、跟两个性别的人建立健康并合乎shengjing的关系，所有这些都可以帮助我们从不合Shen Jin的信念和思想模式中释放出来，帮助我们调整自己的渴望，帮助我们活出自己选择的价值观和xinyang上的承诺。如果你认为自己是jidutu，那么你的创造者在shengjing里的启示才对你是最真实的，而不是你的感觉。学习shengjing，这会显明Shen关于人跟人之间的关系和性的计划。Shen能更新我们的生命，改变我们的欲望，在遭遇试探和软弱时给我们力量和自控力，并能帮助我们以更为广阔的人生观在生活中关注更为宏伟的目标和计划。
Sexuality is important, but it is only one small factor making up the human experience and Christian life. Whether SSA feelings stay, change or go away, God will help sustain you if you have made him the guidepost of your life and you seek to honor his perfect plan for sexuality.
Though marriage and sex are good gifts from God, they are not the ultimate goal of the Christian life nor promised to anyone. We know Jesus lived a joyful, purposeful and chaste life as many Christians through history have.
The fear is being alone for life if you’re a Christian experiencing SSA but with God, you are never alone nor forsaken. We must learn to stand firm on the rock-solid promises of God in order to endure the specific challenges and temptations we each face in this life.
性取向是很重要的，但仅仅是人生经历和jidu徒生活中的一个小小的元素而已。无论同性吸引持续存在、改变或者褪去。 如果你将Shen作为生命的指引，并且寻求尊重shen对性的完美计划，那祂一定会扶持你。纵使婚姻和性是Shen的美好恩赐，但它们并非是xin徒生命的终极目标，也没有应许给所有人。我们知道，跟历史上许许多多jidu徒一样，主yesu也度过了喜乐、有意义和贞洁的一生。 身为Ji Du Tu，如果你被同性所吸引，也许会害怕将寂寞此生。但有Shen同在，你永不会孤单，永不会被抛弃。为要承受今生面对的特殊的挑战和试探，我们每个人都需要学习稳稳站立在Shen坚如磐石的应许之上。
