L.P. and his wife have a cross-cultural marriage have been married for 9 years with two young sons. Here is what he has to say:

L.P.和妻子属于跨文化婚姻，他们已经结婚9年，育有2个年幼的儿子。他是这么说的:

“It is good for a man to bear the yoke while he is young.”
Lamentations 3:27 NIV

“人在幼年负轭，这原是好的。” 耶利米哀歌3：27

The first year was the hardest, and then postpartum, and then… Marriage is hard. It’s a continual process in learning to be less selfish. The better we learn, the easier it gets. If we are slow learners, it can be pretty miserable. Husbands love your wives (put her needs before your own), wives submit to your husbands (put his feelings before your own)—this is how to get through the hard times.

婚后第一年是最艰难的，然后就是产后，一个个困难接踵而来，总之，婚姻是艰难的。这是一个不断学习除去自私的过程。我们学得越好，婚姻就越容易。如果我们学得很慢，那么婚姻对我们而言可能会很痛苦。丈夫爱妻子（把她的需要放在自己之先）妻子顺服丈夫（把他的感受放在自己之先）– 这就是度过难关的方法。 

 

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R.G. and her husband have been married for 7 years and have one young boy and one baby on the way! Here is what she has to say: R.G.和丈夫已经结婚7年，育有一个小男孩和一个即将出生的孩子！她是这么说的:

The hardest moment was when my husband didn’t understand me and did something that made me feel very angry. When you face these kinds of moments, the first important thing is to not speak mean and harsh words in your anger. Then ask God work in both of your hearts and give you strength to love and to forgive. Then consider the other person’s position. If the thing is really no big deal, just let it go. But if you think it matters, try to gently speak out your thoughts gently and share your feelings and expectations. 我所经历的最艰难的时刻是丈夫不理解我的时候, 做了一件令我非常生气的事情。当你面对这样的时刻，最重要的是不要带着怒气说刻薄话。然后求Shen在你俩心中做工，给你们力量去爱和饶恕。其次要考虑对方的立场。如果这件事真没什么大不了的，就让它过去吧。但如果你认为它很重要，试着温柔地说出你的想法，表达你的感受和期望。